I feel sorry for her friends/family that still care about her, because from her track record it seems as though she will just end up hurting them. Her parents and brother seem really nice. It's awful to know that they somehow might get affected legally if things go to court. It's not even their fault. I know her boyfriend and her boyfriend's family are probably brainwashed as well. They just care about her, just like we all used to. That's why it was so hard for us to believe everything we have heard/seen. Man, I considered this girl as family for awhile there...And for her 2-3 friends, I really wish I could say something reassuring. But we've all been there before and she'll just crush you. If you are still friends with her...be diligent, watch your backs, consistently check your credit, change your SSN. Seriously. This advice was given to me two years ago and I was to naïve to listen.
I guess I should be mad at the drama that she's causing on here, but I'm not. I was furious at first, but then it got really old. And I started feeling apathetic. Besides, I was reading her comments and it's pretty obvious why she's doing this:
1. She is jealous of everybody...especially of her ex-friends that are getting closer to each other. 4 out of the 5 girls that went to Napa were one of her closest friends at one time. It's funny how ALL the pieces have come together. It's scary how much we know...things that we would have never learned if all of this didn't come out.
2. She's got nothing better to do, but to stir up drama. She enjoys twisting the truth. This is what she loves. She's been doing it for years and years and years. It's in her blood. I'm sure that she has completely twisted everything that has happened, so it seems like she is the "victim". Isn't it funny how she's always the victim?
3. She wants to divert the attention away from herself by posting comments as this mysterious person.
4. But most of all.......the main reason she's doing this is she's got deeper issues. Besides the hatred, jealousy, and hurt she must be feeling...she is one lonely girl. She was banned from Jenn's Forum and now she's trying to get attention on my blog. She doesn't have any friends or anyone real to talk to, so she's writing comments on here just so that she can have people to communicate with. It's really sad. Read the comments over again. You'll see it. It jumps right out at you how she's got no one to talk to. Maybe that's why she likes creating the scams/identities...because she's really just an empty soul that knows she is unloved, unwanted, and completely miserable.
I really felt sorry for her when I first found out. That's why I didn't want to tell anyone at first. Then I realized that she had pulled so many scams on her friends in the past. And if I didn't speak up like everyone else, she would ultimately strike again. Hey, she still might. But I guess it's not really in any of our control. You know, a lot of people might think that we're just wasting our time thinking about this, and they're right. It is a waste of time. But this has affected all of us. If this crap didn't personally involve me, than I would not be so focused on it. And it affects the other girls, too. Most importantly, we are dealing with someone who could potentionally hurt someone we care about...so, no, we can't just pretend it never happened. But what we can do is try to move past it and go on with our lives. The reality of this situation is that she's never going to go away. Her desperate attempts and cries for attention will probably not end. She will continue to comment with her bs, and continue to make a fool out of herself. My advice is to ignore her, because she really isn't worth responding to or getting worked up about. Really.
This is getting to long and I've wasted enough time on her. Just want to say the commenting yesterday actually resulted in me feeling so much love from my family and friends. Thanks so much for all the emails and calls of support. Much love to all of you!
Here's the breakdown:
Yesterday, it was my God-daughter's Baptism. She is so cute!
The next link is to pics from last weekend. I was to lazy to post them earlier. Mainly pics of Brady playing in the park and then Easter dinner with the Robles/Mendozas/Pilapils:
On Saturday, Arlene, Jay, Marie, Jenn, and I went to the Health Spa of Napa Valley. We took pictures galore:
Then on our way home, those girls wanted to stop by Spaghetti Factory to have dinner. Surprisingly, the rest of the guys were there:
My 28th "Surprise" Bday Dinner at Spaghetti Factory 4.26.03
Thanks to everyone who made it out that night. I was so pooped from the spa and shopping so I didn't feel like drinking all that much. It was so fun though. And after the dinner, Francis decided to give me my bday present early. He got me a Palm Zire 71:
Palm's Website
Pretty cool.
Thanks to everyone who's emailed/called/sent e-greetings today. I really appreciate it =)
Here I am again.
It's been exactly a week since I last posted. I gotta stop doing this. Maybe I should have post-it notes all over my house reminding me to blog every day. Francis would hate that. He even hates it when I leave a sweater on the bed for two minutes. Uh…yah, but that guy can leave three loads of laundry unfolded and scattered all over the guest room for 6 months. Men...ya can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em.
The house is definitely a mess. Francis is really good at vacuuming and keeping the downstairs, especially near his precious sofa, tidy. He's anal that way. Yet, he doesn't like doing the dishes until they pile up and he despises cleaning the bathrooms. I've noticed that men, in general, don't like cleaning bathrooms for some reason. Not only that, they suck at it. I grew up with two brothers so I know how it is. They try cleaning it, but they don't scrub the tubs hard enough, they never clean the back of the toilets (which is the worst part), and always fail to clean the faucet/sink area well. Gosh, I hate cleaning the bathrooms, too...but somebody's got to do it. Just like someone’s got to take out the garbage and pick up doggie doo-doo, which I can’t stand.
The days have gotten us physically and emotionally drained with everything that is happening around us. Our weekends are inundated with weddings, b-day parties, get-togethers, baptisms, and even more parties. And, of course, we work during the days so there’s not much time to do things when we get off. I've been racing to get to the dry cleaners, bank, tailor, supermarket, etc. on my lunch breaks and after work. Just so I can get home and get what I have desperately been needing...........sleep. There's not enough time or energy to do everything we need and want to do. It's not bad, it's just fact.
When I was younger, life was carefree. All I had to worry about was getting good grades and going out with my friends. I had a lot of energy to do absolutely everything I wanted to do. So what happened to all that youthful energy? Actually, I'm at the other end of the spectrum where I hardly have any energy at all. But, I shouldn't be. I'm really not that old yet. So, what gives? Maybe it's the constant worrying about making ends meet that drains the life out of people. Maybe that's the solution. What if we stopped worrying about what could go wrong, and started focusing on the positive aspects of life. What a concept, eh? Life wouldn’t be so hard and the whole world would be happy and at peace!
Uh, naaaaaaah. I think I’m trying to BS myself out of reality. Well, isn't there an inkling of truth to that statement at least? Ceasing “worrying” would ultimately preserve your energy for things that are much more important. Besides, why dwell on something you just can’t change anyway? I just hate the "woulda, coulda, shoulda" phase. This is one of my biggest battles. Do they have classes to deal with this problem???
But in the midst of all the worrying, struggles, and responsibilities…thank goodness we still make it a part of our plan to enjoy life to the fullest. This weekend I’m going to the spa for some R&R.
We'll have massages, facials, shopping, beautiful scenery...and most importantly, no guys! What more could we ask for? We definitely deserve some pampering after all we have been through. Ahh...heaven!
By the way...Happy Anniversary M&D!!!
I finally created my first flash project. It wasn't to hard to create. Heehee...
Here's the link for anyone who wants to check it out:
Joanne's Home
I'm not really in the mood to write anything so good night all and sweet dreams...
Today I had lunch at an italian restaurant in Union City. Turned out there was a lunch gathering for a bunch of loud and extremely hyper Logan High School teachers. They came into the restaurant liked they owned it. And all they kept talking about was "Montoya this and Montoya that". Geez, teachers suck. Especially James Logan high school teachers. Especially James Logan high school science teachers. Especially James Logan high school ex-science teachers....whose name happens to be Francis. Heehee. j/k Francis. Logan science teachers don't suck at all! Ms. Noche was the best!
We did see Mr. Hanson, Mr. Dugan, Mr. Norbut (no, not Norbert), Mr. Ustik, Mr. Fletcher, and about 12 other teachers that we couldn't recognize. Mr. Hanson and Mr. Fletcher were cool teachers. Easy A's. Haha.
We ordered a vegitarian pizza. My friend was not pleased being a meat-eater and all. Well...it will be Easter in a few weeks so it's all good.
(A few hours have passed)...Okay, so there were a few parties last weekend that i forgot to mention.
R digg's 27th Birthday at TGIF and Kelly's Mission Rock
Jiselle's 5th Birthday in Sac
Check out both pages on my site... Now, if you don't know any of these people or aren't friends with me for that matter, don't click on these sites...cause that would classify you as a psycho. Or maybe someone who is really bored. Well, in the latter case, it's alright...just as long as your name isn't ******. Hehehe...maybe, i won't go there today.
Last weekend was pretty quiet. On friday, Francis and I went out to Chinese for dinner. We ended up at UC Landing to watch a movie (Old School), but kicked it at Borders for awhile. Okay, so we didn't end up going inside Borders...we kinda just stayed in the car. WhY? I have to admit, it was my fault. I was so tired and grouchy from work and other things...I really didn't feel up for the movie at all. Didn't feel much like hanging out at Borders either. So, what did I do? I stalled, of course. Thank goodness Francis got the hint and we ended up going home. I can admit it...I'm a meanie! =)
Hmm...what did I do saturday? Oh, I had an optometric appt. Ugh. I was really dreading it. For some reason I really, really, hate those visual field tests. Maybe because they're so annoying and I end up getting really sleepy during the whole process. It might also be because when I was in college, that test made the Optometrist think I had a brain tumor! Yah, frEeaKed me out. Anyway, I got through it and even got a new pair of transitional lenses.
After the appt. we had dinner at Cheesecake Factory in Valley Fair and we even did a little bit of shopping after. Oh, thanks to my sis in law for letting me know about Sisley at U.C of Bennetton. I have never gone in U.C of Bennetton, but I'm glad I got to check it out because Sisley is my most favorite brand of clothing! I just really love the style and fit. Funny how their only store around here is in Hollywood and Highland in LA...and let's just say I used to have fond memories of that place but now it just makes me feel numb.
Sunday was the funnest day of the weekend. We went to Coppenhagen's Bakery in Broadway in Burlingame for breakfast. They have the best banana pancakes. We rarely get to go there so it was such a nice little treat. Of course we had the opportunity to hit the shops, but Francis just ended up staying on the benches! He didn't even try to hurry me up like usual. Wow, I wonder what got into him??? Hehe. Too bad I didn't see any good deals. It was fun just walking around though. Oh, can't forget we watched the "Core". We both liked it. It kept us interested. We also hit Hillsdale to pick up some gifts for birthdays/anniversaries. The best part of the day had to be the weather...it was beautiful. We ended the day with pizza at Pizza Chicago. Pretty good pizza if I do say so myself =)
So that was my weekend. Went to work yesterday and we ended up having dinner at CreAsia. Francis decided to feed me well since I had to be on a clear, liquid diet for 24 hours. I don't know how I made it through the day! I'm usually such a pig. I like eating little things throughout the day. Haha. Okay, well...we definitely need to start cooking again. Yah, I don't think we've used our stove/oven since the Limpics two weeks ago. Hehehe.
