Thursday, May 29, 2003
I haven't had much time to write on the blog. Been busy with other things, especially work. Very hectic lately with the implementation of the new training programs. I've been feeling the pull from all sides needing help and it's been driving me bonkers. So today I just took it easy and didn't rush through things. I felt a whole lot better. I even had some time to check the updates on Jenn's forum. Heehee. And there were some interesting updates, huh? How can someone fake graduating college? I think it's so odd. Anyway, it was a nice day to catch up with friends and things like that.
AC got us all into Friendster, which is pretty much an online community that connects everyone's friends together. It's a good place to check out how everyone's been doing over the past few years. It's been a decade since I've heard or seen many of them, so it's a pretty cool site. And for all you single folk, it's a good place to meet other single folk. Who knows, connections might be made. It's must be hard to be single though. I can just imagine how difficult it must be to try to find that one person out of millions that you're meant to be with, while dealing with the big "R" word. Yah, rejection...such an ugly word. I was chatting with two of my friends this morning about being single and creating relationships. My friend, who would like to remain nameless, said that he's always the "comfort guy" to all his close friends (girl)...and that it sucks to be the "comfort guy", because the comfort guy never gets anything in return for letting his girl friends vent (usually about their boyfriends). Then one of my girl friends told him that "comfort guy" was a good role for him to be in. And then I thought.....it's only really good for the girl and it's not so good for the guy...
Because the guy doesn't really get much out of that relationship...or does he? Imagine that you're this guy. Do you get anything out of listening to your friend rant and rave over and over again about the inadequacies of her boyfriend? Probably not. But should you expect to get anything out of it in the first place? Isn't friendship about listening and being there for someone even when ya know they're just venting and saying the same things they said 3 weeks ago? And then I thought...is this a double standard? Because why can girls be there for their friends (guys AND girls) and not expect to get anything out of it, but with guys it's almost as if they have a hidden agenda or "hope" that they'll get with this girl that is their close friend. They just won't admit it. And then it brings me to another question...if your close girlfriend already has a boyfriend, why would you expect something more in the first place. Wouldn't you know that this girl is off limits? And if you're really her friend, then wouldn't ya just be there for her and not expect anything beyond friendship in return at all, right? And if you can't be there for her only as a good friend, then a decision needs to be made as to whether or not you can remain close friends with her . But, at that point, it's up to the person to decide. I do feel bad for all the "comfort guys" out there though. They all just want to find someone that they can love/care about. My opinion comes down to this. The "comfort guys" are picking the wrong girls to focus on. They need to find girls who are unattached and willing to be open to a new relationship. I don't know. It was just an interesting conversation to hear. Any opinions out there?
AC got us all into Friendster, which is pretty much an online community that connects everyone's friends together. It's a good place to check out how everyone's been doing over the past few years. It's been a decade since I've heard or seen many of them, so it's a pretty cool site. And for all you single folk, it's a good place to meet other single folk. Who knows, connections might be made. It's must be hard to be single though. I can just imagine how difficult it must be to try to find that one person out of millions that you're meant to be with, while dealing with the big "R" word. Yah, rejection...such an ugly word. I was chatting with two of my friends this morning about being single and creating relationships. My friend, who would like to remain nameless, said that he's always the "comfort guy" to all his close friends (girl)...and that it sucks to be the "comfort guy", because the comfort guy never gets anything in return for letting his girl friends vent (usually about their boyfriends). Then one of my girl friends told him that "comfort guy" was a good role for him to be in. And then I thought.....it's only really good for the girl and it's not so good for the guy...
Because the guy doesn't really get much out of that relationship...or does he? Imagine that you're this guy. Do you get anything out of listening to your friend rant and rave over and over again about the inadequacies of her boyfriend? Probably not. But should you expect to get anything out of it in the first place? Isn't friendship about listening and being there for someone even when ya know they're just venting and saying the same things they said 3 weeks ago? And then I thought...is this a double standard? Because why can girls be there for their friends (guys AND girls) and not expect to get anything out of it, but with guys it's almost as if they have a hidden agenda or "hope" that they'll get with this girl that is their close friend. They just won't admit it. And then it brings me to another question...if your close girlfriend already has a boyfriend, why would you expect something more in the first place. Wouldn't you know that this girl is off limits? And if you're really her friend, then wouldn't ya just be there for her and not expect anything beyond friendship in return at all, right? And if you can't be there for her only as a good friend, then a decision needs to be made as to whether or not you can remain close friends with her . But, at that point, it's up to the person to decide. I do feel bad for all the "comfort guys" out there though. They all just want to find someone that they can love/care about. My opinion comes down to this. The "comfort guys" are picking the wrong girls to focus on. They need to find girls who are unattached and willing to be open to a new relationship. I don't know. It was just an interesting conversation to hear. Any opinions out there?
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